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Kate and Chris
When finding a doula, I was looking for someone to provide emotional support, and who wouldn’t be dogmatic about a certain way of birthing. Ebony fulfilled both expectations to the max: she is a genuinely kind person who is open-minded and enthusiastic about all options. I was two weeks’ post-dates during which time I went slightly crazy with stress – regular phone calls with Ebony was the only thing that could calm me down. I actually credit Ebony‘s calming voice with getting things going – my waters broke after a conversation on the phone with her, and after a lot of stopping and starting, my contractions started for real after one of her calming touch sessions.
My husband was initially worried about hiring a doula as he thought it might replace his role – I think this is quite a common anxiety for birth partners. Nothing could have been further from the truth: Ebony‘s ante-natal sessions gave him the skills and confidence to be the best possible birth partner. During the labour, she timed contractions and spoke to the midwives, freeing Chris up to support me. Crazy as it sounds, my time in labour was one of the most magical, bonding experiences of our marriage. The contractions were intense and
exhausting but not painful – who knows why I experienced it that way, but I can’t believe that the hypnobirthing with Ebony didn’t have something to do with it. Ebony suggested different positions and acupressure points but she knew when to hang back and let us work together. Walking round the hospital car park with Chris on a winter
Sunday evening, hanging off bicycle racks while I was having contractions, actually felt romantic!
My birth ended up being more complicated than I would have liked – with induction, an epidural and ventouse delivery. With every decision that I had to make, Ebony listened to my fears and anxieties, and talked me through the options carefully. I never felt like she had an agenda or was pushing me in any particular direction – she supported me through the decisions but ensured they were mine alone.
Ebony‘s skills are endless – she is optimistic yet pragmatic, a brilliant listener who gets things done, gets on with everyone but is firm when she needs to be – she requested a ventouse when the doctor wanted to use forceps and if she hadn’t slipped me some illegal Gatorade during the pushing I don’t think I could have carried on. She was incredibly thoughtful throughout: when our daughter was being examined on the other side of the room, she took photographs and a video so we could see what was happening. My labour was long —
difficult in parts, intensely joyful at others — and having someone who had been there to talk through it afterwards helped us process it. Looking through the photos she took of the birth was both moving and healing.
Hiring a doula is obviously a very personal decision but based on our experience, I would urge you to do it! It was a strange and wonderful rollercoaster and there was no one better to have by our side during the joy and the tears. Now all I’m worried about is whether Ebony will be free for baby 2!
I can’t rave about Ebony enough, in fact so much that my best friend has already booked Ebony for her birth.
She is a fountain of knowledge and very understanding of the birth you would personally like. She doesn’t enforce any views but will provide factual evidence so you can make your own informed decisions. For me she was the perfect blend of medical vs alternative.
Her expertise extends further than just during the birth, she gave top tips for everything for how your body delivers the baby to the best toys & beds to buy. I would still text her months after Eddie was born to ask her opinion…and she is always right!
During the birth she was extremely calm, very understanding, amazing at pressure point massage and guided me through my breathing, all while being very assertive with the medical staff.
Finally and most importantly for me she is a very genuine, loveable, warm person. I instantly liked her and felt very at ease in her company, she is non judgemental, funny, kind and I couldn’t have asked more from her during my birth.
Although I was thrilled to discover I was pregnant I have to admit I was also scared about the process and with no close female relatives in London I was a bit uneasy about what support I would have on hand – I did some research and thought that a Doula sounded like the answer to my prayers. I did a lot of internet searching and realised that I needed to find someone I could relate to – someone who would understand where I was coming from and if possible try to steer clear of some of the ‘hippy’ cliches. And then I found Ebony! What a revelation.
Ebony is not only incredibly knowledgable with great experience, but she is so warm and supportive with a really great sense of humour. Ever since I met Ebony for a coffee after work when I was 5 months pregnant she’s been there for me. The only way I can think of to really explain my experience with Ebony was that having her by my side was like having a best friend who just happens to know absolutely everything there is to know about birth and early days. From the start we just ‘clicked’. Ebony really understood my hesitations and concerns, without ever preaching, she talked me through them and was able to recommend the best books and websites, sent me supportive texts and was with me every step of the way. I don’t know what I would have done with out her.
During the actual birth Ebony was an absolute Godsend – I don’t think my husband has ever been so happy to see anyone! Ebony and I had prepared for a natural water birth using hypnobirthing… although things didn’t exactly go as planned as my waters broke 24 hours before I actually went into labour. I was devastated to be missing out on the birth experience I’d imagined and was really emotional and Ebony absolutely took care of me. She stayed by my side the whole time, talked me through each step as I went through the contractions, Hypno-exercises, then the gas and finally an induced birth with epidural. Ebony was the one that held my hand during the birth and welcomed our little girl into the world. Having her support me is something I’ll never forget and I’ll always be grateful for.
I stayed a couple of nights in hospital and when I got home Ebony came around for post-natal chats and support and it was great to see a friendly-face and have a girlfriend to talk through the experience with.
I believe Ebony is just one of the world’s naturally caring people, I feel so lucky to have met her. She’s so easy to relate to and we really have a great laugh together. If I ever had any questions that Ebony couldn’t answer on the spot she would research the answer for me. I think of Ebony as not only the best decision I made for my birth experience but also as a friend, she’s a wonderful, wonderful woman.
Ebony came in with an attitude of total supportiveness and no judgment. She listened and comforted me when I shared with her how I ended up needing an emergency cesarian. She felt like an immediate friend.
She was always responsive, professional, and helpful. She is the kind of person that I felt like I could immediately be open with, and she is a pleasure to have around.
I would highly recommend Ebony. Her cheery, relaxed nature is exactly what new moms need around them. She is an amazing listener and I also felt very comfortable with her watching the baby; she is patient and capable and in general just gives off good energy.
Silvia and Rafael
My husband and I were supported by Ebony before, during and after the birth of our son in October 2014. We also attended her Hypnobirthing training. Ebony gave us a lot of information about the birthing process and labour. Together we evaluated our different options. We were confident and fortunate enough to have a home birth.
Ebony was absolutely perfect to have around. We enjoyed her humour, her spirit and her attitude. Ebony is highly empathetic. Whereas I am the relatively quiet and my husband more bubbly, Ebony understood it very well to balance her attention between me and my husband and gave me an absolute comfortable felling. I could really open up and be most relaxed around her. Ebony assisted us long before the midwife arrived, in preparing the rooms and help me coping with the surges.
After the birth Ebony was there with tips and emotional support and helped us with contacts from her wide network. I surely missed her positivity when having my second child in a different country. It is absolutely worthwhile hiring a Doula to assist with any pregnancy and birth, it makes a big difference.
We were looking to be as prepared for our little guy’s arrival as possible, and knew that like preparing for a marathon or exam, preparing for birth is just as essential. Ebony was an awesome “trainer”, full of information and techniques to help demystify giving birth and allow my husband to be part of the process which made me feel like it was truly a team effort. Her hypnobirthing sessions were such a crucial part of ensuring that our minds and hearts were ready, and we felt empowered that we had the ability to somewhat control how things would pan out when the time came.
The birth was everything we wanted; over and done with in 24 hours, no drugs, water birth, and Ebony was so relaxed that her calmness was definitely absorbed by me, my husband, the midwives and I reckon my son… his heart rate never changed during his birth.
It was after the baby arrived that Ebony truly showed the depth of her empathy and experience. I had some complications post birth with the placenta, and Ebony held my hand and helped me remained focused and calm while my husband could give his attention to our new baby. She didn’t leave my side in the ambulance and initial time at the hospital, and I really can’t thank her enough for her support during these hours. Everything was fine and we were out of the hospital and home before we knew it, and I really owe it to Ebony for the fact that even though there were some hiccups at the end, we had such an incredible birth and consequently a happy, healthy little man.
Ebony is a most talented Doula and I can’t recommend her highly enough. She supported me through my pregnancy and the hypno-homebirth of my second son Donovan in 2014. I’m currently pregnant with 3rd baby and when we found out we were expecting again the first thing we did was book Ebony for the upcoming birth. Some specific notes from our experience;
Knowledge and passion – Ebony is deeply passionate and well read about all things maternity and birth related. The fact that she’s also KG hypnobirthing teacher trained is a real plus for us as that was fundamental to the birth approach we believe in.
Experienced, well respected and connected in the doula network – so even if there was something she hadn’t had direct personal experience of herself, Ebony was quickly able to consult with other doulas and share reassuring examples and experience from other mothers.
Personality, humanity and connection – as soon as I met Ebony I knew she was the doula for us. Her warmth and personality meant that I instantaneously felt I trusted and believed in her and very quickly felt comfortable with her as if she were an old friend. For me this meant when our son’s birthing day arrived she immediately and unobtrusively slipped in to her role and I genuinely felt we were a seamless team. This total trust and the resultant relaxation (I’m usually a control freak) enabled me get in to my hypnobirthing zone, and Ebony guided me to a position that worked, with light tough massage techniques that fit perfectly with my hypnobirthing practice.
Ebony’s respect for the role of father/birth partner – again a significant point for us, particularly as we were hypnobirthing. Of course the Doula role during labour is primarily to support the birthing mother but Ebony connected so well with my husband too during our antenatal appointments that it was really empowering for him.
Respectful and sympathetic of our history – our first baby was stillborn at 36wks and Ebony’s incredible skills meant that she was such a fundamental support during our anxious second pregnancy and the ultimate wonderful homebirth. For me it was so important to be able to take back some control and have the birth I wanted second time round and Ebony truly enabled that. I had a wonderfully positive birth experience and genuinely could not imagine doing it without Ebony on my team.
I had the pleasure of having Ebony as my birth and post-natal doula. She was the greatest friend I never knew I had until I delivered my daughter, Imogen. Ebony is a wealth of information and support – just what I needed with the overwhelming, emotional and unpredictable days of early motherhood! Her warm, friendly and can-do demeanour makes it easy to open up, ask for help and not at all uncomfortable having her around your home at such a crazy, but special, time. She’s the best listener – extremely empathetic and completely non-judgemental. I would highly recommend Ebony to anyone looking for friendly, caring and knowledgable support throughout their pregnancy and after.
Melina and Neal
To have Ebony as our birth doula and to do the hypnobirthing class with her was honestly one of the best decisions we ever made. We had a really positive birth experience and I will always be grateful for the wonderful preparation & support from her throughout the pregnancy, labour & birth. She is an amazing person & I wholeheartedly recommend her as a doula.
R & N
Ebony has been wonderful and exactly what I was looking for in a doula! She has a warm, bubbly personality and is a calm, emphatic listener with an incredible wealth of knowledge on all things birth. She gave me total support with no judgement whatsoever. She was always available for a comforting chat, especially when things didn’t go as planned (as they do!) and after birth.
You totally are Mary Poppins – you’re clearly better than her in fact because you can also advise on jeggings and know about hilarious baby dancing videos on YouTube!